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When Negativity Takes Over: Understanding Negative Sentiment Override
Relationships naturally go through ups and downs, but sometimes the balance tips in a way that makes every interaction feel like a potential conflict. Psychologist Dr. John Gottman describes this dynamic as Negative Sentiment Override (NSO)—a state where negativity colours how partners see and interpret each other, even when the intent is neutral or positive.
Paula Gurnett
Sep 172 min read


How To Help Your Partner When You've Betrayed Them
Helping your partner after betrayal isn’t about winning them back with quick fixes—it’s about walking with them through the pain you caused and proving, through steady action, that you can be safe again. Rebuilding trust is possible, but it requires patience, humility, and a willingness to prioritize their healing, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Paula Gurnett
Sep 43 min read


Permission to Feel: A Path to Emotional Intelligence and Wellbeing
By granting ourselves and others the permission to feel, we open the door to a more empathetic, resilient, and emotionally intelligent society.
Paula Gurnett
Aug 13 min read


The Myth That Affairs Only Happen In Unhappy Relationships - And Why It's Not True
Many people hold the belief that affairs are purely a symptom of a miserable or broken relationship — but world-renowned relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman and his team have found that this is far from the whole truth.
Paula Gurnett
Jul 183 min read


8 Powerful Ways To Build Emotional Intimacy In Your Relationship
When emotional intimacy grows, so does the richness, resilience, and joy of your relationship.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jun 143 min read


The Pros of Intensive Therapy: A Deep Dive into Healing
Intensive therapy is not just therapy turned up in volume—it’s therapy turned deeper, wider, and more focused. For those who are ready and willing, it can be a powerful catalyst for change, clarity, and emotional freedom. If you feel like you’ve been surviving instead of thriving, this might be the step that leads you into lasting healing.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
May 183 min read


How To Make Your Therapy More Effective
Therapy is a powerful tool for personal growth, but its effectiveness depends largely on how you approach it.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
May 42 min read


Betrayal Trauma and Healing: Rebuilding Trust and Finding Inner Peace
Betrayal trauma may change you, but it does not have to define you.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Apr 163 min read


4 Common Mistakes Couples Make During Conflict (And How to Fix Them)
Disagreements are inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate conflict with effectively can lead to a stronger partnership.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Mar 192 min read


The "Let Them Theory": Embracing Peace & Letting Go
The "Let Them" theory is about embracing acceptance and inner peace.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Feb 13 min read


Navigating Perpetual Issues In Relationships
It’s not about eliminating conflict but learning to navigate it together—strengthening your bond and deepening your love along the way.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jan 133 min read


Strengthening Your Marriage with Healthy Boundaries – A Review of "Boundaries in Marriage"
Boundaries in marriage are about fostering a supportive and safe environment for both partners to grow, individually and together.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Dec 8, 20242 min read


Gottman's Approach To Healing After Betrayal
Explore Gottman’s insights and strategies for navigating the challenging journey of recovering from betrayal.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Nov 2, 20244 min read


Borderline Personality Disorder: A Review of "Stop Walking on Eggshells"
A lifeline for those looking for practical, empathetic advice on dealing with a loved one’s unpredictable behaviours.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Oct 19, 20243 min read


Breaking The Stigma Around Therapy: A Path To Well-Being
One of the biggest myths about therapy is that it’s only for those in crisis.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Oct 4, 20243 min read


A Deep Dive Into Navigating High-Conflict Relationships
"High-Conflict Couple" by Alan E. Fruzzetti is an invaluable resource for couples trapped in a cycle of destructive conflict.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Sep 26, 20242 min read


The Science Behind Lasting Love: A Review of "The Science of Trust"
Gottman’s work is not just theoretical; it offers actionable advice for individuals and couples looking to strengthen their relationships.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Aug 28, 20242 min read


Communication Tips For Couples
Effective communication is crucial for a healthy and thriving relationship.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Aug 16, 20242 min read


Relationships: No Time For Quality Time
Balancing time in a relationship can be challenging, but is essential for maintaining a strong and healthy connection.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jul 13, 20242 min read


5 Relationship Myths Debunked
Relationship myths on true love, interests, happiness, and more are exposed.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jul 1, 20241 min read

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