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Commitment & Stability in Relationships - Navigating Fears, Expectations, and Long-Term Sustainability
Commitment is one of the most meaningful—and sometimes most misunderstood—concepts in relationships. It represents safety, trust, and shared intention. Yet, it can also stir up fears, doubts, and differing needs between partners. Understanding our own and our partner’s relationship to commitment is key to creating the stability that allows love to thrive.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
18 hours ago3 min read


Gottman's Stress Reducing Conversation: A Simple Way to Support Each Other
Stress is unavoidable—but disconnection doesn’t have to be. Gottman’s Stress-Reducing Conversation helps couples turn toward each other, fostering comfort, support, and deeper intimacy in the face of life’s challenges.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jan 133 min read


Avoiding Difficult Conversations In Relationships
Difficult conversations are a part of every meaningful relationship. When approached with respect and understanding, they can actually deepen trust and intimacy. As Dr. Gottman puts it, “Conflict is an opportunity to learn how to love each other better.”

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Nov 14, 20253 min read


When Negativity Takes Over: Understanding Negative Sentiment Override
Relationships naturally go through ups and downs, but sometimes the balance tips in a way that makes every interaction feel like a potential conflict. Psychologist Dr. John Gottman describes this dynamic as Negative Sentiment Override (NSO)—a state where negativity colours how partners see and interpret each other, even when the intent is neutral or positive.
Paula Gurnett
Sep 17, 20252 min read


8 Powerful Ways To Build Emotional Intimacy In Your Relationship
When emotional intimacy grows, so does the richness, resilience, and joy of your relationship.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jun 14, 20253 min read


How To Move On From A Relationship: A Gentle Guide To Healing
Moving on isn’t about forgetting the relationship; it’s about learning to live fully again, carrying forward the wisdom you gained.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jun 2, 20252 min read


Men Experiencing Abuse: Breaking The Silence
Abuse is often perceived as something that primarily affects women, but the reality is that men can also be victims.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Apr 2, 20252 min read


4 Common Mistakes Couples Make During Conflict (And How to Fix Them)
Disagreements are inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate conflict with effectively can lead to a stronger partnership.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Mar 19, 20252 min read


How To Set Healthy Boundaries For A Balanced Life
Embrace the power of boundaries and start living a more balanced, fulfilled life.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Feb 15, 20253 min read


The "Let Them Theory": Embracing Peace & Letting Go
The "Let Them" theory is about embracing acceptance and inner peace.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Feb 1, 20253 min read


Navigating Perpetual Issues In Relationships
It’s not about eliminating conflict but learning to navigate it together—strengthening your bond and deepening your love along the way.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jan 13, 20253 min read


How To Fight Loneliness After A Breakup
Loneliness is a natural part of the healing process, but it doesn't define your future.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jan 2, 20253 min read


Strengthening Your Marriage with Healthy Boundaries – A Review of "Boundaries in Marriage"
Boundaries in marriage are about fostering a supportive and safe environment for both partners to grow, individually and together.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Dec 8, 20242 min read


5 Relationship Myths Debunked
Relationship myths on true love, interests, happiness, and more are exposed.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jul 1, 20241 min read


Are You In A Toxic Relationship?
Recognizing a toxic relationship is crucial for your mental, emotional, and sometimes physical well-being.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
May 23, 20242 min read


7 Relationship Risks Of Criticism
Criticism can pose several risks to relationship satisfaction and success and is a predictor of divorce.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Apr 21, 20242 min read


Pathway To Rebuilding Trust
Rebuilding trust is definitely possible with intentional effort, patience, and effective communication.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Apr 11, 20242 min read


The Silent Slayer: Stonewalling
Stonewalling is one of the Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, which are communication patterns that predict relationship failure.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Apr 5, 20242 min read


5 Dangers Of Defensiveness
Defensiveness in a relationship can be detrimental to its health and can hinder effective communication and problem-solving.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Mar 24, 20242 min read


Bringing Back The Spark
Every relationship goes through ups and downs, and it's normal to experience periods where the spark feels dim.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Mar 2, 20242 min read

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