Men Experiencing Abuse: Breaking The Silence

April 2, 2025 Paula Gurnett, C.C.C.

Abuse is often perceived as something that primarily affects women, but the reality is that men can also be victims. While societal norms and stereotypes may make it harder for men to come forward, abuse knows no gender. Understanding and acknowledging the experiences of men who face abuse is essential in breaking the stigma and providing support.

What Does Abuse Look Like for Men?

Abuse against men can take many forms, including:

1. Physical Abuse

   • Physical violence such as hitting, slapping, spitting, or throwing objects.

   • Intimidation through aggressive behaviour or threats of violence.

2. Emotional and Psychological Abuse

   • Constant criticism, belittling, degradation, and verbal attacks.

   • Gaslighting, manipulation, and controlling behaviours.

   • Isolation from friends, family, and support networks.

3. Verbal Abuse

   • Insults, name-calling, and threats.

   • Yelling or demeaning or degrading language.

4. Sexual Abuse

   • Coercion, unwanted sexual contact, or sexual assault.

5. Financial Abuse

   • Controlling access to finances, withholding money, or sabotaging employment opportunities.

6. Legal or Institutional Abuse

   • False accusations, misuse of legal systems, or threats to damage a man’s reputation.

Why Don’t Men Report Abuse?

Men often face unique challenges when it comes to reporting abuse. Some common barriers include:

• Shame and Stigma: Societal expectations often pressure men to appear strong and self-reliant.

• Fear of Not Being Believed: Due to gender stereotypes, some may doubt or dismiss claims of abuse from men.

• Lack of Support Services: Many services are tailored for women, making it harder for men to find specialized help.

• Concerns About Retaliation: Fear of retaliation from the abuser, especially in cases involving children or legal battles.

Recognizing the Signs of Abuse in Men

Some indicators that a man may be experiencing abuse include:

• Unexplained injuries or frequent justifications for physical harm.

• Withdrawal from social activities or sudden isolation.

• Low self-esteem, depression, or anxiety.

• Reluctance to discuss relationship issues.

Seeking Help

It is important to remember that no one deserves to be abused, regardless of gender. Men who experience abuse can benefit from support groups, counselling, and legal assistance. Some organizations now offer services specifically designed to support male survivors.

By raising awareness and acknowledging the reality of men experiencing abuse, we can work toward a more inclusive and supportive environment for all survivors. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, reach out for help. You are not alone, and support is available.