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Commitment & Stability in Relationships - Navigating Fears, Expectations, and Long-Term Sustainability
Commitment is one of the most meaningful—and sometimes most misunderstood—concepts in relationships. It represents safety, trust, and shared intention. Yet, it can also stir up fears, doubts, and differing needs between partners. Understanding our own and our partner’s relationship to commitment is key to creating the stability that allows love to thrive.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
18 hours ago3 min read


Gottman's Stress Reducing Conversation: A Simple Way to Support Each Other
Stress is unavoidable—but disconnection doesn’t have to be. Gottman’s Stress-Reducing Conversation helps couples turn toward each other, fostering comfort, support, and deeper intimacy in the face of life’s challenges.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jan 133 min read


Avoiding Difficult Conversations In Relationships
Difficult conversations are a part of every meaningful relationship. When approached with respect and understanding, they can actually deepen trust and intimacy. As Dr. Gottman puts it, “Conflict is an opportunity to learn how to love each other better.”

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Nov 14, 20253 min read


6 Myths Of Infidelity: What Couples Really Need To Know
Infidelity is one of the most feared and painful breaches in any relationship. Yet despite how common it is, myths and misconceptions about affairs continue to cloud our understanding — often adding shame, blame, and confusion where clarity is most needed.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Nov 1, 20253 min read


When Negativity Takes Over: Understanding Negative Sentiment Override
Relationships naturally go through ups and downs, but sometimes the balance tips in a way that makes every interaction feel like a potential conflict. Psychologist Dr. John Gottman describes this dynamic as Negative Sentiment Override (NSO)—a state where negativity colours how partners see and interpret each other, even when the intent is neutral or positive.
Paula Gurnett
Sep 17, 20252 min read


How To Help Your Partner When You've Betrayed Them
Helping your partner after betrayal isn’t about winning them back with quick fixes—it’s about walking with them through the pain you caused and proving, through steady action, that you can be safe again. Rebuilding trust is possible, but it requires patience, humility, and a willingness to prioritize their healing, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Paula Gurnett
Sep 4, 20253 min read


Permission to Feel: A Path to Emotional Intelligence and Wellbeing
By granting ourselves and others the permission to feel, we open the door to a more empathetic, resilient, and emotionally intelligent society.
Paula Gurnett
Aug 1, 20253 min read


The Myth That Affairs Only Happen In Unhappy Relationships - And Why It's Not True
Many people hold the belief that affairs are purely a symptom of a miserable or broken relationship — but world-renowned relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman and his team have found that this is far from the whole truth.
Paula Gurnett
Jul 18, 20253 min read


8 Powerful Ways To Build Emotional Intimacy In Your Relationship
When emotional intimacy grows, so does the richness, resilience, and joy of your relationship.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jun 14, 20253 min read


The Pros of Intensive Therapy: A Deep Dive into Healing
Intensive therapy is not just therapy turned up in volume—it’s therapy turned deeper, wider, and more focused. For those who are ready and willing, it can be a powerful catalyst for change, clarity, and emotional freedom. If you feel like you’ve been surviving instead of thriving, this might be the step that leads you into lasting healing.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
May 18, 20253 min read


Betrayal Trauma and Healing: Rebuilding Trust and Finding Inner Peace
Betrayal trauma may change you, but it does not have to define you.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Apr 16, 20253 min read


4 Common Mistakes Couples Make During Conflict (And How to Fix Them)
Disagreements are inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate conflict with effectively can lead to a stronger partnership.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Mar 19, 20252 min read


What To Do After Affair Recovery Therapy: Rebuilding Trust And Moving Forward
Affair recovery therapy provides essential tools for processing betrayal, rebuilding communication, and restoring trust.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Mar 3, 20252 min read


Navigating Perpetual Issues In Relationships
It’s not about eliminating conflict but learning to navigate it together—strengthening your bond and deepening your love along the way.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jan 13, 20253 min read


Gottman's Approach To Healing After Betrayal
Explore Gottman’s insights and strategies for navigating the challenging journey of recovering from betrayal.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Nov 2, 20244 min read


The Science Behind Lasting Love: A Review of "The Science of Trust"
Gottman’s work is not just theoretical; it offers actionable advice for individuals and couples looking to strengthen their relationships.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Aug 28, 20242 min read


Communication Tips For Couples
Effective communication is crucial for a healthy and thriving relationship.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Aug 16, 20242 min read


Relationships: No Time For Quality Time
Balancing time in a relationship can be challenging, but is essential for maintaining a strong and healthy connection.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jul 13, 20242 min read


5 Relationship Myths Debunked
Relationship myths on true love, interests, happiness, and more are exposed.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jul 1, 20241 min read


Affair Recovery: Betrayed And Broken
When you are experiencing strong emotions related to a sense of betrayal and heartbreak it can be overwhelming.

Paula Gurnett, MA, C.C.C.
Jun 10, 20242 min read

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